 |
討論內容： |
Hello all:-) I have had a few days away from the blog and I have come to some new understanding.I believe that although I have not shied away from normal life and going out and have been following advice, I realise now that all the time in the back of my mind i have been thinking about anxiety.Thoughts such as "this all started about 5 months ago so may take about that long to go so it might be gone by about september" and "the books/site mention bringing in new things so if i start swimmimg and other stuff maybe in a few months this may go" and "if i could just remember the normal things i used to do ...."I realise if this is how I am thinking all the time even though I am out at asda or swimming,anxiety is still with me.I thought "well the site said it will still be on your mind so I can think about all the time and thats fine"Actually what I now have realised is that this is what is impeding my progress.It has to not matter!!!Yes i will still have all those feelings there but instead of pondering them (which is what I have been doing) because I know all there is to know about why I have it and how i think, if the pondering starts I should change my thought "yes its still here but whats for tea? Its not to forget that you have anxiety that is needed it is to feel that having it isnt a problem,it doesnt matter.It doesnt stop me doing anything it does take a bit of enjoyment away yes but so what. I know if i practice adopting this attitude this is the key.I have been reading and re-reading the site and the books in the hope I have missed something this is just keeping me concentrating on the subject.I need to do what paul has all along been telling me stop worrying about the anxiety and cook the tea,meet my friends and paint the living room while i feel rubbish but thinking about things that really are important such as the kids parents evening or what to buy for my friends birthday not how am i going to feel tomorrow morning because I already know.This is going to take practise and unless i have a really rubbish day I am not going to come here evreyday im going to try and concentrate on other stuff.Thank you all for your advice and to paul If i had read the book properly instead of looking for miracles i may of reached this point sooner but i am here now and wouldnt be if not for this site THANK YOU x, penis extenders, >:-O, |